Abuse.....what is your understanding of this?

Leslie Vernick
The Emotionally Destructive Relationship
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This is very eye opening.  My stomach was turning after I read this. This is the mess I am cleaning up?!!??!! Wow! No wonder why sometimes I feel overwhelmed, and sometimes I feel nothing, and sometimes I want to hide, sometimes I don't know what I'm feeling, and sometimes its a good day.  This is the latest book I am reading.  It is VERY good.  If you have any thought as to "Maybe I am in a unhealthy or destructive relationship" then this is the perfect book for you.  It explains ABUSE, but it also explains destructive things that we do in our relationships that are not abuse, but they are destructive and will cause problems in our relationships. If you do find that you are in an abusive relationship, PLEASE seek professional help and PRAY.  God will guide you as he did me in the direction you need to go.  But something has to change.  The mess caused by abuse is bigger and far worse than most people can imagine.  I am hoping that people will educate themselves a little bit on this subject.  I was married for 11yrs and we saw many non professional church/friend counselors, and none of them recognized the abuse I was living. I didn't even know it was abuse, till near the very end.  Abuse is much much more than just someone hitting you.  There is emotional, verbal, sexual, and more.  Do a little research.  Maybe you have a friend that is hurting.  Pray for them.  Be there for them.  Abuse is a sensitive thing.  If the abuser knows that the person is becoming aware of things the situation may get worse for the person. They make the person feel helpless and like they are nothing with out them. There are a million reasons that the normal person does not understand as to why people stay with abusers.  I knew my life would be way worse if I ever tried to leave.  I was right.  The month or two before he was arrested were the worse few months of my life. But God was with me every step of the way. Maybe I can tell that story on here someday. Pray for my family as I continue our journey.  And please educate yourself some...to truly be a help to some people in life you need to understand that sometimes they need professional help, the mind of an abuser is an crazy thing.